Aha. Here come the warm weather, and here come the Burlesque Balloon Women eager to show off their skin. Get ready single men, it may be a long, frustrating, sensually provocative summer.
Everywhere you go, there is a reoccurring theme of what? -Love. In every movie there is a damsel in distress awaiting her salvation in the hands of an evil man who really has too much time on his hands, and way too much energy to go out of his way to kidnap people and make everything so much more difficult for everyone else. =_= . Take Fast and Furious 6, for example (which I watched last night in a crowded theatre in Providence along with about 1.2billion steamy people). I won't say too much for the people who haven't watched it yet, but here we can see homeboy's girl, who he thought was dead, resurface who knows where, and sexy (and a bit too bulky) Dwayne Johnson SEARCHIN for hot tamale Vin Diesel to get him to help a brotha out. This propels sir hot tamale into a state of action. Had homegirl not been involved, he would have gladly declined the mission. And so would his friends.
So what was the point of that seemingly lengthy tangent? Well. I said that to say this- I went to watch this movie and it was about -love. I walked out of the theatre and I saw couples blissfully sauntering away in -love. I turned on pandora in my car and the first song that came on was about- love. I came home and the first thing that I thought about was -you guessed it-love.
So, if you're single, like me, and all you see around you is cotton candy, love bugs, and cupids, you may not necessarily feel the love yourself. All you can do is see it from the outside standpoint of a foreigner.
That's not to say that we haven't "been in" or "experienced" love. Which we might have. But too often than not, in today's society, because of our insecurities, impatience, or even involuntary acceptance of a partner, we have brought ourselves to a state of confusion when it comes to this word, love. How do I know this? Well. Take a look at the current divorce rates- which I'm sure has to probably be a little over 50% by now.
In our generation, we have made the difference between love and lust indistinguishable. I really want to gear this post more towards our women today (if I don't end up getting side tracked with another tangent, that is). I'm talking about real love, which is ONLY recognizable when we see our place in relation to God's Magnificence.
True Love: Welp. I have finally come to terms with the fact that I am not ready for a relationship. As of now. Why? Because I have not truly grasped the essence of what True Love actually is. But I have gotten to the point where I have learned that in order to recognize True Love, I have to FIRST understand God's love towards me, that way I will not only be able to identify that love from someone else, but be able to reciprocate it as well.
Once we understand the true sacricificial meaning of what love is, then we can place ourselves in a place where we are one smidge closer to where God needs us to be in preparing us for interconnectedness with one another. That being said, we need to pause, right now, and evaluate our places. Are you a slave to lust? Pull yourself away from the hustle and bustle of society and REALLY think about this right now. Are your actions in tune with that of a woman (or man, for the men reading this) who has finally been brought to a place of spiritual awareness? Hmm. Here's a simple test to figure that out.
Alright this is what you do- Stand up. Close your eyes. And place your hands on your hips. Then ask yourself: Is God enough?
Aha. Here's where many of us fail this test. And here is where I failed the test every time I got into a relationship because I never believed that God was enough. Many of us females think that we need men to validate us, or that being in a relationship will somehow flick us back up a point value system adopted by nonfactor judges. Many of us are searching for our "other halves" when #1- Eve never searched for Adam, but was brought/led to Him by God, and #2- Who said we are missing a whole HALF of ourselves? Shoot, that other "Half" better be the character of Jesus! Haha ok but no, in all honesty, I believe that we are not to look to others for definition, but merely for the purpose of complimenting our lives. Eve complimented Adam. She was sent to be his "helpmeet", not "helpmeat". (See what I did there?)
And then we have the issue of women seeking to be in relationships simply for the "glitz and glamour" of what they expect it to be. They want to get with the best looking guy who plays hard to get but in reality, doesn't even value the woman. We're addicted to the chase. We feel entitled to get what we want- even though it might not be the best thing for us. Every woman, whether they admit it or not, likes a good challenge. The rush of the experience brings us to a feeling of euphoria, which stimulates our endurance for the pursuit. But when our endurance declines, reality sets in.
If we spent more time looking within ourselves and truly asking Yahweh to reveal the things within us that need to be tweaked, then we might increase our chances for happiness through the power of discernment. With a closer relationship with God comes greater wisdom. Had we learned this a long time ago, we would have been able to evade a lot of unfavorable experiences we have found ourselves in the past. But you know. Everyone is into the whole "well, let me learn from my mistakes" when true wisdom lies not in learning from your own, but evading those mistakes and cutting straight to the lesson though the observation of the mistakes of others.
Think of it this way. What sense does it make for us to spend our time, energy, effort and resources to figure out how to make a lightbulb, when it has already been invented? What we should be spending time on is learning various ways that we can improve the quality of that bulb.
So this post is turning out a long longer than I wanted it to. The last thing that I want to say is this- Ladies? Don't be blinded by the superficial face value of what a relationship is- i.e. cuddling, physical intimacy, kissing, some more physical intimacy and playing Bonnie and Clyde with your boyfriend. Work on developing something long lasting, and of higher value that will guarantee your happiness in your not too distant future. Have patience. Relax, focus on achieving your immediate goals, and eemember, God IS enough. Focus on Him, and all good things will surely follow.
First day of Summer: Friday, June 21st, 2013
-Alda.
Everywhere you go, there is a reoccurring theme of what? -Love. In every movie there is a damsel in distress awaiting her salvation in the hands of an evil man who really has too much time on his hands, and way too much energy to go out of his way to kidnap people and make everything so much more difficult for everyone else. =_= . Take Fast and Furious 6, for example (which I watched last night in a crowded theatre in Providence along with about 1.2billion steamy people). I won't say too much for the people who haven't watched it yet, but here we can see homeboy's girl, who he thought was dead, resurface who knows where, and sexy (and a bit too bulky) Dwayne Johnson SEARCHIN for hot tamale Vin Diesel to get him to help a brotha out. This propels sir hot tamale into a state of action. Had homegirl not been involved, he would have gladly declined the mission. And so would his friends.
So what was the point of that seemingly lengthy tangent? Well. I said that to say this- I went to watch this movie and it was about -love. I walked out of the theatre and I saw couples blissfully sauntering away in -love. I turned on pandora in my car and the first song that came on was about- love. I came home and the first thing that I thought about was -you guessed it-love.
So, if you're single, like me, and all you see around you is cotton candy, love bugs, and cupids, you may not necessarily feel the love yourself. All you can do is see it from the outside standpoint of a foreigner.
That's not to say that we haven't "been in" or "experienced" love. Which we might have. But too often than not, in today's society, because of our insecurities, impatience, or even involuntary acceptance of a partner, we have brought ourselves to a state of confusion when it comes to this word, love. How do I know this? Well. Take a look at the current divorce rates- which I'm sure has to probably be a little over 50% by now.
In our generation, we have made the difference between love and lust indistinguishable. I really want to gear this post more towards our women today (if I don't end up getting side tracked with another tangent, that is). I'm talking about real love, which is ONLY recognizable when we see our place in relation to God's Magnificence.
True Love: Welp. I have finally come to terms with the fact that I am not ready for a relationship. As of now. Why? Because I have not truly grasped the essence of what True Love actually is. But I have gotten to the point where I have learned that in order to recognize True Love, I have to FIRST understand God's love towards me, that way I will not only be able to identify that love from someone else, but be able to reciprocate it as well.
Once we understand the true sacricificial meaning of what love is, then we can place ourselves in a place where we are one smidge closer to where God needs us to be in preparing us for interconnectedness with one another. That being said, we need to pause, right now, and evaluate our places. Are you a slave to lust? Pull yourself away from the hustle and bustle of society and REALLY think about this right now. Are your actions in tune with that of a woman (or man, for the men reading this) who has finally been brought to a place of spiritual awareness? Hmm. Here's a simple test to figure that out.
Alright this is what you do- Stand up. Close your eyes. And place your hands on your hips. Then ask yourself: Is God enough?
Aha. Here's where many of us fail this test. And here is where I failed the test every time I got into a relationship because I never believed that God was enough. Many of us females think that we need men to validate us, or that being in a relationship will somehow flick us back up a point value system adopted by nonfactor judges. Many of us are searching for our "other halves" when #1- Eve never searched for Adam, but was brought/led to Him by God, and #2- Who said we are missing a whole HALF of ourselves? Shoot, that other "Half" better be the character of Jesus! Haha ok but no, in all honesty, I believe that we are not to look to others for definition, but merely for the purpose of complimenting our lives. Eve complimented Adam. She was sent to be his "helpmeet", not "helpmeat". (See what I did there?)
And then we have the issue of women seeking to be in relationships simply for the "glitz and glamour" of what they expect it to be. They want to get with the best looking guy who plays hard to get but in reality, doesn't even value the woman. We're addicted to the chase. We feel entitled to get what we want- even though it might not be the best thing for us. Every woman, whether they admit it or not, likes a good challenge. The rush of the experience brings us to a feeling of euphoria, which stimulates our endurance for the pursuit. But when our endurance declines, reality sets in.
If we spent more time looking within ourselves and truly asking Yahweh to reveal the things within us that need to be tweaked, then we might increase our chances for happiness through the power of discernment. With a closer relationship with God comes greater wisdom. Had we learned this a long time ago, we would have been able to evade a lot of unfavorable experiences we have found ourselves in the past. But you know. Everyone is into the whole "well, let me learn from my mistakes" when true wisdom lies not in learning from your own, but evading those mistakes and cutting straight to the lesson though the observation of the mistakes of others.
Think of it this way. What sense does it make for us to spend our time, energy, effort and resources to figure out how to make a lightbulb, when it has already been invented? What we should be spending time on is learning various ways that we can improve the quality of that bulb.
So this post is turning out a long longer than I wanted it to. The last thing that I want to say is this- Ladies? Don't be blinded by the superficial face value of what a relationship is- i.e. cuddling, physical intimacy, kissing, some more physical intimacy and playing Bonnie and Clyde with your boyfriend. Work on developing something long lasting, and of higher value that will guarantee your happiness in your not too distant future. Have patience. Relax, focus on achieving your immediate goals, and eemember, God IS enough. Focus on Him, and all good things will surely follow.
First day of Summer: Friday, June 21st, 2013
-Alda.
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