The natural progression of most of my conversations:
Small Talk.
Jack Foolery.
Abstract Subliminals.
Meat.
Adopted Knowledge.
Acquired Wisdom.
Small Talk:
I vaguely remember a discussion I once had that began somewhere along the lines of the viewing of a vine, a couple of exchanges about children's prayers during children's story at church, and finally the topic of "friend zones".
Jack Foolery:
As the natural progression of most of my conversations would have it, this spiraled into another conversation where I vaguely remember typing in the lyrics to an old school rap song "stop.. drop.. shut em down open up shop"... and something about ninjas.
Abstract Subliminals:
The conversation somehow moved into the topic of not properly understanding that person (whom I was in dialogue with) due to insufficient amounts of proper communication and exchanges about the details of that person's life. I was then accused of attributing complex qualities to a rather simple persona, and that I probably overanalyzed the entire character of the one who I was in conversation with.
Meat:
The discourse then led into a full length discussion where I began attempting to explain my premise of not trying to "figure people out". I adopted this mentality from previous experiences accumulated over time. "Figuring" people out in the worldview of Madame Alda is congruent to a mentality infused with the idea of reading people as we would a mathematical equation- with the purposes of seeking a solution to a problem. Unbeknownst to me, this inevitably propelled me into "compulsive fixer/savior/mini-chick-with-a-cape mode. Upon explaining this sort of abstract reality in my mind, I then set forth another ideal that I live by-instead of trying to "figure" people out like I used to do, I simply (or not so simply) seek to "understand" people, for I believe that understanding breeds acceptance.
To which a thought provoking rebuttal was made that would refine my initial belief about interactions with other people.
"Acceptance breeds understanding".
I immediately went into refutation mode, but instead of seeking to disprove the claim, I thought about the possibility of that being a valid argument..
To make a lengthy conversation shorter, common ground was found at one point, but by no means through easily transported vesicles of agreement. Understanding of both claims needed to be acquired, and the facilitation of knowledge acquisition slowly began to reshape the initial premise.
To give you a better understanding of the context of this conversation, it was dealt with in terms of interpersonal relationships (along with other initial foundational contexts, but for the sake of not having a lengthy blog post, let's speak in relation to interpersonal relationships).
Two claims were up for debate:
"It is better to accept someone before you fully understand them"
"It is better to understand someone before you fully accept them [as an intimate partner]".
I was seeking to validate the latter claim. I believed, in terms of accepting someone wholeheartedly into one's life, that it is important to understand various elements that a person possessed before making the decision to accept them into your life.
For example, if you know, beforehand, that a specific person has had a history of cheating, I would hope that it would raise some sort of red flag for you to know that it would probably not be a good idea to get into a relationship with them.
On the other hand, in support of the former claim, it was stated that if we can first accept a person into our lives, our focus would shift from faults and perceptions, and move towards eliminating barriers that would prevent us from understanding them.
Adopted Knowledge:
By the end of the conversation, we decided that it would be possible to merge the two claims into one presumption:
You can accept someone before understanding them (into friendship) then during friendship, you inadvertently or unintentionally obtain a specific body of an understanding of that person. Once equipped with that level of understanding, a novel, or a second level of acceptance is then presented (which would be an acceptance into your personal life), allowing such a relationship to establish soul ties between two parties.
Acquired Wisdom:
In summary, it is essentially a three step process:
1) Acceptance [Into friendship]
2) Understanding
3) Informed/intentional acceptance [Into an intimate relationship].
Note that the last step must be preceded by an acquired level of understanding.
...
And then somehow we ended up talking about spiders. And that was the end of that.
Stay Groovy, Keep Kickin'
-Alda.
Small Talk.
Jack Foolery.
Abstract Subliminals.
Meat.
Adopted Knowledge.
Acquired Wisdom.
Small Talk:
I vaguely remember a discussion I once had that began somewhere along the lines of the viewing of a vine, a couple of exchanges about children's prayers during children's story at church, and finally the topic of "friend zones".
Jack Foolery:
As the natural progression of most of my conversations would have it, this spiraled into another conversation where I vaguely remember typing in the lyrics to an old school rap song "stop.. drop.. shut em down open up shop"... and something about ninjas.
Abstract Subliminals:
The conversation somehow moved into the topic of not properly understanding that person (whom I was in dialogue with) due to insufficient amounts of proper communication and exchanges about the details of that person's life. I was then accused of attributing complex qualities to a rather simple persona, and that I probably overanalyzed the entire character of the one who I was in conversation with.
Meat:
The discourse then led into a full length discussion where I began attempting to explain my premise of not trying to "figure people out". I adopted this mentality from previous experiences accumulated over time. "Figuring" people out in the worldview of Madame Alda is congruent to a mentality infused with the idea of reading people as we would a mathematical equation- with the purposes of seeking a solution to a problem. Unbeknownst to me, this inevitably propelled me into "compulsive fixer/savior/mini-chick-with-a-cape mode. Upon explaining this sort of abstract reality in my mind, I then set forth another ideal that I live by-instead of trying to "figure" people out like I used to do, I simply (or not so simply) seek to "understand" people, for I believe that understanding breeds acceptance.
To which a thought provoking rebuttal was made that would refine my initial belief about interactions with other people.
"Acceptance breeds understanding".
I immediately went into refutation mode, but instead of seeking to disprove the claim, I thought about the possibility of that being a valid argument..
To make a lengthy conversation shorter, common ground was found at one point, but by no means through easily transported vesicles of agreement. Understanding of both claims needed to be acquired, and the facilitation of knowledge acquisition slowly began to reshape the initial premise.
To give you a better understanding of the context of this conversation, it was dealt with in terms of interpersonal relationships (along with other initial foundational contexts, but for the sake of not having a lengthy blog post, let's speak in relation to interpersonal relationships).
Two claims were up for debate:
"It is better to accept someone before you fully understand them"
"It is better to understand someone before you fully accept them [as an intimate partner]".
I was seeking to validate the latter claim. I believed, in terms of accepting someone wholeheartedly into one's life, that it is important to understand various elements that a person possessed before making the decision to accept them into your life.
For example, if you know, beforehand, that a specific person has had a history of cheating, I would hope that it would raise some sort of red flag for you to know that it would probably not be a good idea to get into a relationship with them.
On the other hand, in support of the former claim, it was stated that if we can first accept a person into our lives, our focus would shift from faults and perceptions, and move towards eliminating barriers that would prevent us from understanding them.
Adopted Knowledge:
By the end of the conversation, we decided that it would be possible to merge the two claims into one presumption:
You can accept someone before understanding them (into friendship) then during friendship, you inadvertently or unintentionally obtain a specific body of an understanding of that person. Once equipped with that level of understanding, a novel, or a second level of acceptance is then presented (which would be an acceptance into your personal life), allowing such a relationship to establish soul ties between two parties.
Acquired Wisdom:
In summary, it is essentially a three step process:
1) Acceptance [Into friendship]
2) Understanding
3) Informed/intentional acceptance [Into an intimate relationship].
Note that the last step must be preceded by an acquired level of understanding.
...
And then somehow we ended up talking about spiders. And that was the end of that.
Stay Groovy, Keep Kickin'
-Alda.
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